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Fear Not

Last January I decided to focus my self-improvement efforts on a single word that would guide me through 2013. It would be the driving force behind all of my actions. That word was Balance. As I reflect back on the last year I feel a personal success in my implementation of this word in my daily life. But enough about the past. Moving on. New year, new goals, new word.
While reading the article 37 Life Lessons in 37 Years, one of the author’s lessons really resonated with me: Fear is often a very good indicator of what we really want and need in our life. Let it be your compass and enjoy the exciting adventure it leads you on.

So it was decided. 2014 will be a Fearless endeavor.

We are all individually capable of so much, yet tend to hold back our potential because of our fears. Fear of failure, fear of loneliness, fear of  making mistakes. These fears cloud our minds and divert our attention away from our goals and the things we really want. We settle. We become comfortable. We don’t jump hurdles or take leaps into what could be a happier future. It’s too risky. We’ve got to much to lose. But do we?

I am an extremely ambitious person, always wanting to achieve bigger and better. And when I want something badly enough, I get it. I’ve always known that I will do great things someday. Someday. (Note: I define “great” as that in which is meaningful to ME, realizing others may not see it as such). But why am I waiting for Someday? The fears within that are keeping me from accomplishing these things NOW will only intensify as the clock ticks and I may eventually convince myself that I have more to lose than I once did.

So here I am, ready to push this new strategy. From this point forward I will base my decisions on the answer to the following question: What would you do if fear didn’t stop you?

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As humans, I believe it’s in our nature to overthink, overanalyze and, in turn, overcomplicate. I have found myself doing this too often lately.

I’ve been thinking a lot about the future. What am I doing? Where am I going? Who the hell am I, really? I start to overwhelm myself with these thoughts and begin to feel stuck and worried, in typical Taurus fashion. I’m comfortable where I stand right now but I’m beginning to wonder if comfortable is enough. Does comfort equate to true happiness? Maybe for some people it does, however, I don’t think that’s the case for me. There are certain things about my life that are bothering me right now. It’s because these particular things are ordinary, and if you know anything about me, you know that I am not okay with ordinary. I am, and always have been, an overachiever. I’m in a constant battle with myself to be better. Not necessarily better than anyone else, but better than my present self. Always working toward some new goal. So I’m considering breaking out of my comfort zone and making some changes. These changes would mean steering away from stability and what I believe others are expecting of me. But that’s okay. I need to learn that standards don’t (or shouldn’t) exist. We shouldn’t have to live our lives based on societal expectations, right?

Yesterday’s New York Times Word of the Day was “timidity.” How relevant. This brought me back to thinking of something that my former boss (and now very dear friend) once said to me: “What would you do if fear didn’t stop you?” That question has always stuck with me and echoes in my head with each decision faced. I am petrified of making decisions but putting fear aside helps put things into perspective. I would suggest trying it. What are you so afraid of? There aren’t many things that are irreversible.

I’ve thrown other people’s opinions and my tendency to overthink things out the door for just a second in order to determine what it is that truly brings me joy. I’m fairly certain I’ve figured it out. So now I’m working on incorporating that happiness into my life in a different capacity than it’s current existence. I owe it to myself to enjoy every single day from the moment I wake up until the moment my head hits the pillow at night. The world would be a much more pleasant place if we all focused on that.

With that said I will leave you with this advice: Don’t overcomplicate your life. Get rid of those things that bring you down and invite those that bring you happiness. Because we are all much better people when we are happy. Keep it simple, stupid.


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